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    Reading recommendations from the dead

    People often ask me where to find new books to read. I tell them to peruse book reviews, ask friends for recommendations and read profiles of authors. I also encourage them to go on treasure hunts, discovering books by wandering through a book store or library. You never know what wonders you’ll find, particularly on the upper or lower shelves.

    Today I realized that I also find good book suggestions by reading obituaries. The obit may be about an author who wrote in a genre I favor. Or the deceased may have lived a particularly interesting life and because an obituary is just a snapshot, I yearn to learn more. Either way, I’ll make a point of hunting down related titles and adding them to my “to be read” bookcase.

    Driven by Mike CaffertyI did it again today after reading Maureen O’Donnell’s wonderful obituary for Michael Cafferty, a 49-year-old Chicago attorney who overcame more obstacles than I will (hopefully) ever face. Cafferty’s memoir, “Driven,” was published mere days before he died.

    And now that I own a copy, I’m really looking forward to reading it.

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    A rose by any other name

    Twenty years ago, I became Jade Walker. For those who didn’t know, this was not the name my parents gave me at birth. It’s one I adopted back in 1999.

    My reasons for making the decision were many: a terrible birth name, literary inspiration, the desire to cheat death. Thankfully, the alteration process was relatively simple. I just went down to the courthouse, completed some forms, paid $200 and waited for a judge to approve my application. Once it was clear that I wasn’t planning to change my name for fraudulent reasons, the request was granted.

    Selecting a new name takes careful consideration. It is more powerful than any spell and more permanent than a tattoo. You need to make sure the words feel right on your lips, on the page, in your life.

    As many married women know, it’s the paperwork processing of a name change that’s a hassle. Once you adopt the new name, you have to request that every document and form of identification, every bill you receive and every service account you utilize agree to forever use the updated moniker. It takes time but most of the world eventually catches up to your new identity (although you will receive mail under both names for many years to come).

    There are fun aspects to this change, though. Creating a new signature was a treat and I practiced until writing it flowed with ease. Discovering my new initials also prompted a few laughs. I even got to imagine new nicknames and anagrams.

    I had my original name for 26 years and my current one for 20. While there are people in my life who first knew me by the old name, they rarely use it. Most respected my wishes and kindly changed their identifying habits. Several friends told me that the new name suits me better. I wholeheartedly agree. It is as Jade Walker that I’ve felt most myself, as if I’ve always been this person with this name. Adopting it as my own was one of the best decisions I ever made.

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    Bast And The Bad Place

    I finished work in a very bad place.

    I’d sat at my desk around 9 p.m. on Thursday, determined to stay in a “Friday” frame of mind. Minutes after opening a browser, however, I discovered that the United States had assassinated the highest ranking Iranian general in an airstrike. This development did not bode well for the future, which quickly became evident when “World War 3” became the number one trending topic on Twitter. Like me, others were remembering history and examining the possible geopolitical chess moves that were likely to occur in the coming days.

    It didn’t take long for Iran to react, and as you can imagine, its leaders were furious. The U.S. president responded by tweeting a pixelated American flag. Republicans backed his play. Democrats decried the use of force without Congressional approval. Liberals urged leaders to be cautious; they also suggested such an attack was meant to dissuade Americans from voting out an impeached president during such a scary moment in time. And the hawks began to “Cry ‘Havoc,’ and let slip the dogs of war.”

    Historians and security experts suggested that retaliation was bound to occur and offered various possible scenarios, many of which escalated to apocalyptic levels. Political leaders in target cities began to take measures meant to increase security — or at least provide a sense of it. One poor fellow disembarked from a plane at LAX late last night only to discover the airport was filled with soldiers. What could have possibly happened while he was in the air, he wondered.

    As the night wore on, I noticed that many of the people in my cyber social circle couldn’t sleep. Oh, a few dropped off with plans to disappear into a book or a marathon of streaming shows, and really, who could blame them? Others kept returning to the Web, desperately searching for more information.

    That’s where I came in.

    I spent the overnight hours tracking these conversations, weeding through the chaff and searching for news. By the end of my shift, our news org had published nearly a dozen stories about the assassination, including an article detailing Iran’s promised response, a profile of the slain general and a look back at the president’s past comments on launching a war with Iran during an election year. All of the other terrible things happening in the world — the devastating fires in Australia, the deadly floods in Indonesia, the upcoming impeachment trial in the Senate, the continued separation and detention of families on the southern border, yet another woman making allegations of sexual misconduct against the president — were pushed down the page to make way for this latest calamity.

    When my 10-hour shift finally ended, I had a migraine. My chest felt tight. Every muscle in my neck and shoulders and back was tense in a way I hadn’t felt since the middle of November when I was able to take a vacation and enjoy the holidays. Alas, that sense of peace and relaxation was gone.

    So when morning came and the daywalkers took over, I shut down my computer and retired to the chair in the library. To my right was a stack of books, my iPad and a large cup of tea. Chilled by the events of the night, which continued to swirl inside my head, I donned a blanket and put up the footstool. Mere moments later, Bast sent me a couple of kitties to begin the process of detoxifying my mind. Treacle settled on my lower legs and purred herself to sleep. Choux leaped into my lap and softly kneaded my belly. Chai hopped onto my chest and demanded affection. Thoroughly covered in feline therapy, I closed my eyes, took my first deep breath of the night and silently thanked her for their help.

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    Quote of the week

    “Ask yourselves as you go about your daily lives: How am I using my talents to help society? Because the most powerful lesson here is if more people lived their lives trying to be famous in death, the world would be a much better place.” —Lux Narayan

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    My favorite TV shows and movies of the 2010s

    Comedies and dramas, thrillers and mysteries, romance and horror, plus a wee bit of gardening and baking — that pretty much describes my viewing tastes of the 2010s. So here they are, in alphabetical order, my favorites from the past decade. In that generally quiet period between Christmas and New Year’s or during the darkest winter night, when you’re looking for something new to watch, you simply can’t go wrong with one of these:

    TV

    Broadchurch
    Chuck
    The Closer
    Daredevil
    Downton Abbey
    Elementary
    Escape to the Country
    Forever
    The Good Wife
    Grace and Frankie
    The Great British Baking Show
    Grimm
    Jessica Jones
    The Kominsky Method
    Leverage
    Love Your Garden
    The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel
    NCIS
    One Day at a Time
    Penny Dreadful
    Person of Interest
    Ruth & Erica
    Sense8
    Sherlock
    Stranger Things
    Supernatural
    This Is Us
    True Blood
    White Collar

    MOVIES

    About Time
    The Age of Adaline
    The Butler
    Gravity
    The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society
    Hidden Figures
    I Am Big Bird: The Caroll Spinney Story
    If You’re Not in the Obit, Eat Breakfast
    Joan Didion: The Center Will Not Hold
    Last Flag Flying
    The Ledge
    The Merry Gentleman
    Midnight in Paris
    Obit
    Spotlight
    Super 8
    That Guy…Who Was In That Thing
    Yesterday